Just that. Friends are such blessings. But hard to find.
As a mom of three under two, who stays at home, its hard to find friends. Or even one friend. That’s been the hardest part about being a MOM (plus one more). I’ve always had a handful of friends but after getting pregnant, giving birth, getting pregnant again and giving birth again, I got kind of “busy” I guess you could say. Here lately I’ve been so lonely. Don’t get me wrong, my husband is my friend. My best friend in fact. But its nice to have girlfriends. You need that in your life. I cant tell you how many nights I have cried over the past months because of this. My husband asked me one day “well, where’d all of your friends go?” He doesn’t get it. Some friends got busy with their own lives, others don’t have kids and I feel guilty for disturbing their single life, and others just don’t call or text anymore. Me? I’m a good friend. I always have been. I’m the friend who will text the others just to see how their day/week is going. I’m the friend who checks on the others but they never check on me. I’m tired of being the good friend and I want to make good friends.
Its hard getting out with the babies but I’m working on it. It gets easier and easier every time I do. I can handle it and I know I can. I think I rock the mom job pretty good. Especially having three as young as they are. I’m taking action to make a friend or even a couple of friends because I’m tired of being lonely. I’m tired of not having someone to call when I need to talk. Or having someone there to depend on. Period. I guess it’s the only thing I can do and I will.
I took all three babies to a gymnastics class last Monday and they all did so great. Everyone was so nice and we had so much fun. I would like to do more things like that. I plan on rejoining our local MOMS group and actually going to the meetings this time. They have toddler group once a week that would probably be a lot of fun. It excites me because they know how hard it is raising multiples and I look forward to connecting with them.
Thanks to the blogging and twitter world I have made some life-long friendships with some great girls. We actually text and vox every.single.day. I wish they lived closer because I love these girls. When I’m down, or they’re down, we are all there for each other. I wish we could all be there for one another in person but since we are literally all over the map, Ill take our friendships as is. We plan on doing a girls vacation next year so we can all officially meet and do nothing but sit and relax. One of these girls actually moved closer to me recently and she is the sweetest! We’ve been on a couple of play dates and had a ball. She still lives a bit far but we are both trying our best. That’s all it takes. Equality. One friend trying just as hard as the other one to build a friendship. Its nice to finally have that in my life.
Its hard making friends in adulthood. Honestly? I think its hard making friends your entire life. I hope all my kids will be so blessed with having friends. Good friends I hope. My mom always told me when I was younger “you are lucky if you can count your friends on two hands, you are beyond blessed if you can count good friends on one”. I love that because it is so true. Friends aren’t hard to find, Good friends are.