You know something that really bothers me? How all of us moms are suppose to be supporting one another through raising kids because we all know how difficult it can be sometimes, but I see more judgment on one another than I do support.
We all know how hard this job is. We all know you do what you have to to keep your kids happy. We all know we could pull our hair out at times. We all know how lonely it gets and just one friend could make all the difference. We all know that these days go by so fast and to cherish each and every one. So why judge each other? Are we really going to blame it on “being human”?
I’ve done so many things that I know I shouldn’t have or shouldn’t be doing but you know what? When I’m home with all three alone and all three are crying, I’m going to do something to calm them down. For example, giving my 20 month olds a bottle every now and then because they love it and it calms them down. No, they shouldn’t have bottles at this age but after Maddie was born they saw her with a bottle and didn’t understand why she got one and they couldn’t. So I gave them a bottle. They are off them now but it was a slow road. I’m sure I got judged once or four times for that. The other day in Walmart someone saw Jocelynn with a paci in her mouth and said “isn’t it about time you got rid of that?” Umm? My child isn’t even two yet. She’s teething and cranky and loves her paci. We will cross that road when we will. I don’t know when but it will come one day.
Why cant we all just tell each other “you’re doing a great job” or “Wow, I don’t know how you do it” and “you are a terrific mom”.
Lets be supportive of each other! We all need friends to make it through these tough years and the more support for us moms the easier the days will be. Ill be the first to admit I’ve judged a few times and ill also be the first to admit it bit me in the butt. After having Maddie I totally get it. You do what you have to do to keep those babies happy. Everyone is different and has different ways of parenting. So lets do each other a favor. Go and tell someone how great they’re doing and how proud you are of them. Everyone could use that positive judgment.